Every summer, it's the same scene. The dads are in the pool with the kids, and the moms are huddled in the shade sweating their little tushies off. I'm sure you have seen a similar scene this past summer.

Why do we do that as women? We so badly want to just get in the pool and cool off, have some fun with the family, but we are terrified of what we look like in a swimsuit. So terrified in fact, that we would prefer back sweat to fun. 

I get it. Taking your clothes off and exposing yourself in this way can be overwhelming, but friend, you have to rip off the Band-Aid and just swim. Swim because it feels good. Swim because every summer you really want to. Swim because you feel like the you in the corner is missing out. 

As we head into fall, I want you to begin this work so that by the time next summer comes, you are ready to confidently tackle the summer and the pool, and the swimsuit regardless of what shape and size you are. 

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In today's culture we often associate weight loss with mortality, but rarely do we shine a light on weight loss and morality. Morality, according to Webster is defined as "of or relating to principles of right or wrong behavior". For too long we as human beings have been fed the idea that the definition not only applies to our overall character, but to our food choices as well. Salads are "good" and chips are "bad". 

The "diet police" are criticizing every move we make and we are therefore applying our weight and appearance to our inherent worth. Thin people are deemed as "good" and heavier people are, "bad". These self-righteous people who make you think that they are better human beings because they eat "clean" are just plain wrong. You are not a better person for eating a lot of vegetables and controlling your calories and you are not worse if you'd prefer a juicy burger with some boxed macaroni and cheese. Health is a decision we make just like anything else and just as I...

As women, we are so fearful of gaining weight. So often we associate our looks with our ability to first find love, and then stay in love after you get married. It's easier when we are single to achieve that idealistic standard of beauty, but add in a husband, kids, a dog, a house, and a full time job, our time during the day to work on our physical fitness or meal prep becomes almost impossible. 

As a result of carrying babies, aging, and time constraints, our bodies physically change and the once dull voice that used to tell us that we need to lose weight is now screaming at is.

This loud mouth who lives in our head is destroying the relationship we have with food and our body, and as a result, we turn to diet culture to "fix" us. We shell out the money for the informercial we see on Sunday morning...we begrudgingly wake up in the wee hours of the morning to squeeze in that at home workout, and we forgo girls night out so that we can be sure to meticulously track our macros...

During a conversation with a patient the other day, we uncovered that she wasn't struggling with food per say, but recognized that she seemed to have an obsession with exercise. I've been hearing this a lot lately from a few of my patients and friends and so I wanted to bring the conversation here.

A lot of times, when we think of "eating disorders" we think of the more traditional ones like Anorexia and Bulimia. Exercise isn't something often discussed and the messaging behind the importance of daily exercise makes this specific type of disorder more difficult to notice. 

In "Exercise Bulimia," an individual uses exercise as a way to "purge" or "pay" for ingested calories. Some of the signs of disordered exercise could be exercising when sick, feeling guilt when missing an exercise, not exercising in the "right" way (i.e. walking instead of running), and prioritizing exercise over social engagements, just to name a few. 

This disorder is a sneaky one and can be easily...

Control manifests itself in so many ways, but can also show up in our behaviors around food and too often, they represent an area of our life where we feel out of control. 

There are two common areas where people generally feel out of control.

1. Ambiguous standard: Places where "right and wrong" are subject to interpretation. Think English class vs. Math Class... or a football game vs. a dance competition.  
2. Other people: Most commonly people we have a relationship with...spouse, parents, children, and friends. 

Often times the control we place over food can be a clue as to where we lack control in our own lives. 

Do you...

        Control the times of day that you eat? Perhaps you subconsciously are wanting control over your schedule. 

        Fast from foods? Perhaps you are wanting a break from something or someone who is causing you stress in your life.

        Eat foods on a consistent...